FIND YOUR VOICE. OWN YOUR WORTH.

FIND YOUR VOICE. OWN YOUR WORTH.

There was a time when I was healing my heart from losing a love of 20 years. The person I thought I would spend my life with.  During my healing journey I lived in Puerto Rico for a year, where I met Christine Gutierrez. 

She is a Soul Sister, out on a mission to help better the lives of others. When it comes to relationships and sexuality, she is my go-to. 

Please join Christine and I on February 2nd for a free webinar dedicated to your relationship with love.  RSVP to Sahar@SaharPaz.com to get your webinar link. 

 

DO YOU SMILE AT LOVE, OR DO YOU SMIRK AT THE THOUGHT? 

YOUR INITIAL REACTION IS YOUR ANSWER. 

 

WHAT GETS YOU TO THE POINT OF LOVING OR HATING LOVE? 

STORY: IT'S YOUR STORY ABOUT WHAT LOVE SHOULD BE. 

EXPECTATIONS: IT'S YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF GIVING AND RECEIVING LOVE. 

WILLING: WHAT YOU ARE AND ARE NOT WILLING TO SETTLE FOR.

These three aspects, Story, Expectations, Willing, are exactly what Christine and I will be talking about on February 2nd.

The webinar is free, and for all to attend.

For those of you that are wanting some more love on these topics, Christine and I are offering a 3-week group coaching session for 20!

Once a week in February (15th, 21st, 28th) we are going to meet in a video chat for 90 minutes.

 

THE FIRST WEEK WE ARE GOING TO COVER: THE STORY.

WHAT IS YOUR STORY WITH LOVE?

WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT YOUR JOURNEY WITH LOVE SO FAR. FROM PAST TO PRESENT. YOU CAN SPEND YOUR TIME IN THE SESSION FOCUSING ON ALL THE LOVE YOU HOLD FOR FRIENDS, FAMILY, AND YOUR ROMANTIC PARTNER - OR - YOU CAN FOCUS ON ONE. 

What kind of love did you experience with your parents?

What is your relationship with love and friendship?

What about in your romantic relationships, what is your journey with love so far. 

 

THE SECOND WEEK WE ARE GOING TO COVER: THE EXPECTATIONS

MANY OF US THINK THAT LOVE SHOULD LOOK AND ACT A CERTAIN WAY. THIS KEEPS US FROM ACCEPTING - OURSELVES AND OTHERS - AND THE LOVE COMMUNICATION GETS CRISS-CROSSED. THIS WEEK WE TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU EXPECT FROM LOVE. 

How would you like love to show up day-to-day?

What about yourself are you not loving? 

How are other people loving for you, that works for them, but does NOT work for you?

 

THE THIRD WEEK WE ARE GOING TO COVER: THE WILLINGNESS.

IT'S NOT ABNORMAL THAT YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH LOVE INCLUDES TIME THAT YOU GOT A LOVE UPGRADE - AN EXPERIENCE THAT SHOWED YOU WHAT YOUR KIND OF LOVE ACTS LIKE (AFFIRMATION VS. GIFTS). IT'S ALSO NORMAL FOR YOU TO HAVE SETTLED FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU DESERVE.

What have you compromised in the past that you shouldn't have?

What is  good experience, an upgrade in love, that you have experienced?

What are you willing to promise yourself about your love, and your worth. 

PART 2: How to have emotions in a man's world.

PART 2: How to have emotions in a man's world.

As a man, anger is one of the few emotions you are given a right to.

Let's figure out what you're hiding behind your anger. 

It's rare for boys to see their fathers, or men in their life, model emotions such a fear, sadness, and at times joy and creativity. 

Anger tends to be the house where all the other stifled emotions are housed. Many of the men I coach are most comfortable with anger, and when we dig a little deeper, there is always fear and sadness. 

A fear to face their emotions, especially sadness.

A fear to be seen as inadequate for being emotional. 

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I best sum it up as men are misunderstood.

First, by yourself, unsure of how to deal with emotions and not feel inadequate.

Second, society, and especially the women in your life, as much as we want you to be emotional, we don't always hold that space for you. ,

We have so tidily pushed you in your role to hold yourself and the world together.

I want to tell you that you WILL measure up.

I want to tell you there is no greater strength than radical honesty about what you are feeling.

I want to tell you it's okay, as a respectable man, to feel sadness, fear, anxiety, doubt, jealousy, joy, love, creativity, all of it, it is your birth right.

When you, as a man, show your emotions respect and understanding, you will naturally offer this to others.

You will communicate better, not through anger.

You will not feel defensive, and can listen and problem solve  more impact-fully.

You will accept who you are, and begin to model what a conscious man looks, sounds, and feels like to your son, brother, father, or friend. 

Here are a few questions to help you discover some of your emotional layers. Your masculine qualities of logic and analysis are useful here. Just bring your emotions into the mix. IT'S OKAY TO FEEL. 

QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER... 

Out side of your job, who are you?
What do you fear?
What - besides sex - makes you feel loved?
Who loves you? Who do YOU love?
What is your greatest regret?
What is your saddest memory? Why did this experience hurt so much?
Which of your attributes do you value the most? Name one person who values this in you. How do you feel because he or she does? 

 


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PART 1: How to have emotions in a man's world.

PART 1: How to have emotions in a man's world.

November is #Movember, which makes it a perfect time to give some attention to the emotional health of men, and the masculine way of dealing with emotions. 

I'm going to ask you not to think about gender when I say masculine or feminine. 

These are simply qualities that exist in every human being.  In yoga, the right side of your body is the masculine energy, the left side is your feminine energy. Combining the two gives you a whole view of the world. 

You can be logical and empathetic. 

You can be analytical and creative. 

You bring yourself to action in a nurturing way. 

We have learned and flourished as a society from masculine energies. We needed it when we were building systems such as road ways, water lines, and even finance. But, the progress of civilization includes the emotional health of our society, especially our men. 

It is time for us to grow our feminine qualities such as compassion, creativity, and honesty. 

The masculine qualities of being logical, analytical, and coming to action, are actually taking away from our emotional process. We are intellectualizing our emotions too much, and not feeling enough. 

We are afraid to feel. We are afraid we won't be enough. 

WE include men, women, and teenagers. I coach all of you. And, the common thread is fear of not being enough. 

You are enough. 

And, you are still man enough if you give yourself permission to feel it out. I know society expects you to man up,  or you are afraid to feel it through, but I urge you to challenge yourself to feel this month.  Just let it sit with you for a bit, before you push it down, or say it's a waste of time. 

If down deep you are not happy with something, there is a good chance you won't be clear about it, unless you feel it through. 

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